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Anxious

Anxiety disorders are very common. In a survey covering Great Britain, 1 in 6 adults had experienced some form of ‘neurotic health problem’ in the previous week. The most common neurotic disorders were anxiety and depressive disorders. More than 1 in 10 people are likely to have a ‘disabling anxiety disorder’ at some stage in their life.

Anxiety gives you a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease about something with an uncertain outcome, but there are tools (different tools work for different people) which make it possible for you to rewire your brain allowing a more calm, healthy and rational way of thinking instead, but being self-aware is also an important part of being able to achieve this.

Example of some of the common scenarios which causes anxiety:

I mentioned earlier that anxiety gives you an unease about something with an ‘uncertain‘ outcome, but one way of reducing this unease about your uncertain outcomes is to fill up a to do list with ‘certain‘ outcomes, covering both personal and work items which will keep your mind busy the majority of the time on the achievable items. As your mind knows that they’re achievable it will naturally allow your brain to focus more on positive thoughts (rewiring your anxious brain), leaving the items on the list above still on your mind, but approaching the scenarios will be more natural and rational as you’ll be more confident rather than your head spinning for days.

By creating these to do lists of small achievable items whether it’s on your phone through an app like Notes, email or physical notepad you’ll find that not only will you start getting a positive feeling of progression as you tick them off each day (which replaces some of the anxious thoughts), but you’ll also find that your productivity will increase as you’re spending less time procrastinating, unnecessarily worrying about things which are often outside of your control or scenario outcomes which will never happen.

To do lists can be as little or as big as you like for example:

  • Anything you need to do at work
  • Review your R&R for work and if there’s anything you’re not doing, then add those to your list
  • DIY projects
  • Food shopping
  • Blog posts
  • Setting up meetings
  • Sending out reports
  • Contacting friends or family
  • Items to purchase next
  • Hobbies
  • Fitness eg. Booking golf
  • Watching a film
  • Talking to someone at work about something
  • Sending an email
  • List of work objectives
  • Friends / family birthday
  • Your children’s after school activities
  • Researching and learning

It’s important not to feel pressured to get everything on the to do list done in one day and rather than set a deadline for it all, just prioritise it and slowly go through it as an when you have time.

Another tool is to write down some positive affirmations, referring back to the relevant ones often by having them up around the house or in a visible place, which can often put your mind at ease also.

Saying “what will be will be” is easier said than done, but try something different to get your mind thinking in a different positive way and you may find yourself telling other people “what will be will be” for something which you had major anxiety over before.